How many times have you said, “One day I will laugh at all this”. But until that day comes, you get annoyed a million times. How many questions do you look at yourself in some earlier years and think: “What nonsense I was nervous about!”, but who knew anything then. I think all this too. If only I knew what I know now, I would be less annoyed. With all this in mind, I decided to write down pieces of advice I’d like to give to my younger self with this mind.
Pieces of Advice I’d Like to Give to My Younger Self
I’ve divided these pieces pieces of advice I’d like to give to my younger self into sections for easier navigation.
School and career
Although I created and imposed a good part of the pressure around school and schooling on myself, now I see that it didn’t have to be that way. Let’s see what pieces of advice I’d like to give to my younger self in this domain.
- Don’t compare yourself to others – we don’t all have the same intelligence and learning habits.
- Do things at your own pace – forcing leads to oversaturation, and eventually, giving up.
- Better grades will not make you happy in the long run – there is a lot outside of school.
- Learn only for yourself – that’s the only way to find the right motivation.
- Learning always pays off – sooner or later it turns out to be good that you have learned something.
- Don’t let anyone impose their views on what you want to do – listen to your instincts.
- Don’t work for free – your work and effort are not worthless.
- One who works makes mistakes – one learns through mistakes and tries to become better at work.
- Do not work in any place where the situation is uncomfortable for you.
I had a lot of problems in this field, because I couldn’t manage to fit in. I tormented myself by thinking about why my friendships were failing, and then I realized what the problem was. Here are advice I’d like to give to my younger self regarding frineds and meeting new people.
- You don’t need many friends – you can easily recognize the right ones,
- Better to be alone than with anyone.
- We are not worthless, we have not found the right people.
- True friends will accept your flaws and insanities – they will not run away when it is hardest and when you are nervous.
- It’s always good to meet new people – who knows what interesting things you can learn from them.
- Don’t waste time on certain people – if someone doesn’t contribute to your personality, it’s time to leave.
- People who love you will not let you suffer because of them – as soon as you suffer it is a sign that they are not people for you.
- Surround yourself only with people with whom you can build a quality relationship based on trust.
This is an area where I still make mistakes, fall, get up and continue. I always try to find something new that I could be interested in or refresh my routine. Here are some pieces of advice I’d like to give to my younger self that I would single out in this category.
- It is very healthy to have a hobby – it makes you a more complete person and makes you relax through some useful work.
- Travel ennobles the soul – we learn, develop, get to know others and ourselves through travel.
- You don’t have to do everything and get everything – some lazy moments that you set aside for yourself are just fine.
I used to sincerely feel sorry for myself from before. Unfortunately, we often have to learn from our mistakes. Scars remain, but we are stronger and wiser. I don’t know if consciousness and resourcefulness come with age, rather I think they are the characteristics of the internal turmoil and struggles we have suffered. Not everyone goes through that. Still, I’m glad I learned some things, just a shame it was the hard way.
I would like you to write in the comment what pieces of advice you would give to your younger self, no matter at what age.